My Take on Valentine's Day

- Just saying....the biggest problem with Valentine’s Day is that it is the only day the best comes out of most relationships. Some people are really looking forward to it because it’s the only day that their significant other treats them with affection. If you think you are worth getting pampered, flowers, chocolate and gifts only once a year, that is all good and dandy. Wouldn’t you like to have the same type of treatment all year long though?

Why can’t your loved one receive the same kind of treatment, love, care and so on? Well, my take on Vday is that a love that is only shown once a year is not real love. Love shouldn’t be expressed to its fullest potential only on a holiday. I can’t wait one day out of the year to tell my fiancee that I love him and buy him something nice and wait for next year to do the same thing over. Well let me tell you guys, I wouldn’t have a man in my life if that were the case. Something to think about.

 People will go above and beyond on Valentine's Day....but it makes me just not want to celebrate it all! I mean, I try my hardest to make my man happy on the daily. Whether that means, buying him his favorite cereal when I know he's running low (I don't live with him, but he mentions to me how much he loves his Coco Puffs Brownie Crunch), or buying him his favorite movie on DVD cause his nieces and nephews broke the only copy he had. It's an every day thing. Love is not about sporadically showing affection, or showing love when there's something in it for you (oh I'll get laid if I get her diamonds on Valentine's Day)....it's about buying chocolate covered strawberries for your man on a Thursday night when it's raining so you can cuddle up under a blanket and watch a movie while eating those supposedly-only-cool-for-Valentine's-day berries. Until next time....

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All that glitters is not gold.

It's been a while since I last posted! I got a lot of feedback on the No'Vice thang! I got an out pour of Facebook messages. My friends read the blog, but don't want to create their own, which is fine by me :) It can be a distraction and definitely a pain  in the ass to maintain, so I totally understand. One question that hit me a little close to home was from a good family friend of mine. She is a really good kid, she prays, she listens to her family, she doesn't date, etc. Her issue is that she is in love with a guy her parents disapprove of. She is basically asking me for advice as to what she should do. Here goes...


Well, first off, parents have this inner feeling that is almost always true- call it instinct if you want... It's almost like they can predict the future!! Lol, it sucks to hear it but they are probably right about the guy. No matter how in love with him you are,  you really need to look at why your parents don't like him. For example, my parents hated this one guy I liked. They just said they don't like the way he looks. Now obviously, I was like "wtf?!?" about it and didn't pay it any mind. I continued to hang out with him. We were basically dating, but not really, for almost 4 years. In this 4 year time frame, he put me through hell and back. I mean physical and emotional abuse, continuously, but I continued to stick around. Why, you ask? Because he was my first love. We make big mistakes when we are blinded by love. I know it sounds stupid and very cliche, but I think you need to get to know the guy more, before you hurt your family by going behind their back and doing what you want. Not everyone has a bad experience, but I did....so my two cents would be to take things really slow. Get to know the guy's family and get to know the guy before you end up breaking more than just your heart. </3

On a brighter note, I did really well on my LSAT and got into John Marshall School of Law in Chicago. Too bad my parents won't let me go. I know it's ridiculous. You might wonder, why would you apply if your parents wouldn't let you go? Well, my dad told me to go ahead and apply thinking I wouldn't get in (thanks for having faith in me, dad. PSHHH.), and when I did, he was happy for me. Things are just not where they need to be right now, though. I need my relationship to be stronger before on depart on a path I'm not entirely sure about. Plus, my dad is recovering from surgery and I myself am not in perfect health. So with all these factors, I think I'll take a semester off from school and start in the fall. Inshallah, this is what is best for me :) Until next time.....

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NO'Vice...Naureen's Advice

NO'Vice.....People keep asking me what it means.

Well, my friend Mallory started referring to my advice as this because yeah apparently, my advice is pretty damn good and on-point. I mean it should be, seeing that I have my Bachelor's in Psychology with a special interest in Behavioral Psychology!!

I have the ability to read a person by just observing their behavior. Although that may be judgmental to some, seeing that I don't really try getting to know them personally, I just kinda watch how they interact with others and evaluate their behavior.

SO many people ask me for advice for all sorts of things, so I can just get down to it. Whenever someone asks for my help, I'll post the topic on here and describe how I see the situation. Who knows, I might be able to help someone without them even having to talk to me! :) Here goes it....

Q: Anonymous- "I'm a single mother and have been at a job that I hate for 4 years. I don't know what to do because I have no more room for advancement and I'm just bored. I get paid really good but I'm at work from 8am to 6pm. My daughter is only 5 and I have to keep her with her grandmother so I can go to work and make money to support our family. We have a beautiful house, and I drive a brand new Lexus, thanks to my really boring but financial fulfilling job. I want to quit and find something else that might be closer to home, less hours but good pay because my little girls starting school soon and they grow so fast that I just don't want to miss her life. Plus, I miss having a man in my life. I wasn't half as stressed out as I am now. What do you suggest I do?"

A: Well, first off, financial stability is not the only factor that determines your life. Children grow so fast, I agree, and you are her only parent. Which is why it's SO important to spend as much time with her as possible. She's at the age where she needs her parent(s). I'd suggest you ask your job for less hours or start looking for a job closer to home and with less hours. You have saved money from the job you're working at now, so you have security for the time being. But being with your family is more important than anything. I've learned that when everyone else turns their back on you, your family is all you really have. As for the man thing, when God believes your time has come to be truly in love, that love will come find you. You just stay put, and do what you need to do to live comfortably. Hope that helped! All the best!


*People, don't hesitate to ask advice from someone you don't know. Its actually better that way, in my opinion. At least you know that person is non-bias. Cheerio!

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I Want To Destroy It

So I'm taking my LSAT in a week and I can't focus. I have too many things running through my head. Too much stress, too much emotions, too much frustration and heart ache. I think taking the LSAT when you're going through a fight with a loved one is a HORRIBLE idea. Anyone going through a similar situation can relate to me. I want to do well and I want to show myself and the world, who does not believe in me, that i'm more than just a pretty face <3 I can be someone. I have it in my. I guess I just don't have faith in myself anymore.

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Undefined...

Sitting by the lake in my back yard,
I see the ducks flying and I let down my guard.
Pull out a bag of bread to feed them,
Cause I feel a change in my judgement in rem.

They live and breathe in a world like my own,
Yet we don't see the things God has shown.
We worry so much about fashion and money,
But there's people out there hurting...isn't that funny?

I wake up each day and thank Him for what he's given me,
And pray that He gives me the strength to be the best I can be.
I feed those ducks to get peace of mind,
But yet, I feel so undefined.

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The beginning of a beautiful friendship ...

So with this being my first post of my first blog since 1999, I think i'll take this as an opportunity to describe myself and my lifestyle. And then maybe vent a little about my crappy day :) I'm 'just a small girl in a big world.' I live on a day-to-day basis and I try to be the best I can be. I love cupcakes with a passion, and somehow cupcakes manage to brighten my crappiest days, such as today! I'm contemplating sending one of my employees to downtown to get me some!

I try to love everyone and harm as few as possible, but let's just face it....some people deserve harm! Haha, but in general, I find the good in everyone and it ends up being my greatest flaw. Some people do deserve the benefit of the doubt, but others who don't and are given that right and then abuse it ruin it for the rest of humanity.

Life has its ups and downs, but I like to think that i'm a cup-half-full kinda girl. I'm going to take my half-full cup of coffee and my freshly delivered cupcakes outside and enjoy this beautiful Houston weather. Until next time...

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