My Take on Valentine's Day

- Just saying....the biggest problem with Valentine’s Day is that it is the only day the best comes out of most relationships. Some people are really looking forward to it because it’s the only day that their significant other treats them with affection. If you think you are worth getting pampered, flowers, chocolate and gifts only once a year, that is all good and dandy. Wouldn’t you like to have the same type of treatment all year long though?

Why can’t your loved one receive the same kind of treatment, love, care and so on? Well, my take on Vday is that a love that is only shown once a year is not real love. Love shouldn’t be expressed to its fullest potential only on a holiday. I can’t wait one day out of the year to tell my fiancee that I love him and buy him something nice and wait for next year to do the same thing over. Well let me tell you guys, I wouldn’t have a man in my life if that were the case. Something to think about.

 People will go above and beyond on Valentine's Day....but it makes me just not want to celebrate it all! I mean, I try my hardest to make my man happy on the daily. Whether that means, buying him his favorite cereal when I know he's running low (I don't live with him, but he mentions to me how much he loves his Coco Puffs Brownie Crunch), or buying him his favorite movie on DVD cause his nieces and nephews broke the only copy he had. It's an every day thing. Love is not about sporadically showing affection, or showing love when there's something in it for you (oh I'll get laid if I get her diamonds on Valentine's Day)....it's about buying chocolate covered strawberries for your man on a Thursday night when it's raining so you can cuddle up under a blanket and watch a movie while eating those supposedly-only-cool-for-Valentine's-day berries. Until next time....

<3 Pwac

All that glitters is not gold.

It's been a while since I last posted! I got a lot of feedback on the No'Vice thang! I got an out pour of Facebook messages. My friends read the blog, but don't want to create their own, which is fine by me :) It can be a distraction and definitely a pain  in the ass to maintain, so I totally understand. One question that hit me a little close to home was from a good family friend of mine. She is a really good kid, she prays, she listens to her family, she doesn't date, etc. Her issue is that she is in love with a guy her parents disapprove of. She is basically asking me for advice as to what she should do. Here goes...


Well, first off, parents have this inner feeling that is almost always true- call it instinct if you want... It's almost like they can predict the future!! Lol, it sucks to hear it but they are probably right about the guy. No matter how in love with him you are,  you really need to look at why your parents don't like him. For example, my parents hated this one guy I liked. They just said they don't like the way he looks. Now obviously, I was like "wtf?!?" about it and didn't pay it any mind. I continued to hang out with him. We were basically dating, but not really, for almost 4 years. In this 4 year time frame, he put me through hell and back. I mean physical and emotional abuse, continuously, but I continued to stick around. Why, you ask? Because he was my first love. We make big mistakes when we are blinded by love. I know it sounds stupid and very cliche, but I think you need to get to know the guy more, before you hurt your family by going behind their back and doing what you want. Not everyone has a bad experience, but I did....so my two cents would be to take things really slow. Get to know the guy's family and get to know the guy before you end up breaking more than just your heart. </3

On a brighter note, I did really well on my LSAT and got into John Marshall School of Law in Chicago. Too bad my parents won't let me go. I know it's ridiculous. You might wonder, why would you apply if your parents wouldn't let you go? Well, my dad told me to go ahead and apply thinking I wouldn't get in (thanks for having faith in me, dad. PSHHH.), and when I did, he was happy for me. Things are just not where they need to be right now, though. I need my relationship to be stronger before on depart on a path I'm not entirely sure about. Plus, my dad is recovering from surgery and I myself am not in perfect health. So with all these factors, I think I'll take a semester off from school and start in the fall. Inshallah, this is what is best for me :) Until next time.....

<3 PWAC